"Allowing children to show their guilt, show their grief, show their anger, takes the sting out of the situation."
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"Self-pity, a dominant characteristic of sociopaths, is also the characteristic that differentiates heroic storytelling from psychological rumination. When you talk about your experiences to shed light, you may feel wrenching pain, grief, anger, or shame. Your audience may pity you, but not because you want them to."
Martha Beck"Although beauty may be in the eye of the beholder, the feeling of being beautiful exists solely in the mind of the beheld."
Martha Beck"Good-looking individuals are treated better than homely ones in virtually every social situation, from dating to trial by jury. If everyday experience hasn't convinced you of this, there's research that will."
Martha Beck"Good-looking individuals are treated better than homely ones in virtually every social situation, from dating to trial by jury."
Martha Beck"No one else can take risks for us, or face our losses on our behalf, or give us self-esteem. No one can spare us from life's slings and arrows, and when death comes, we meet it alone."
Martha Beck"Fact: From quitting smoking to skiing, we succeed to the degree we try, fail, and learn. Studies show that people who worry about mistakes shut down, but those who are relaxed about doing badly soon learn to do well. Success is built on failure."
Martha Beck"Hopeful thinking can get you out of your fear zone and into your appreciation zone."
Martha Beck"It takes about four days of virtuous living to create a little weight loss. That also happens to be the time required to get used to eating less. In other words, if you can get past day three of a fitness regimen, things improve."
Martha Beck"You have the freedom to live and let live, to love and let love. Granting yourself that freedom is one of the healthiest, most constructive things you can do for yourself and the people who matter to you."
Martha Beck"Since our society equates happiness with youth, we often assume that sorrow, quiet desperation, and hopelessness go hand in hand with getting older. They don't. Emotional pain or numbness are symptoms of living the wrong life, not a long life."
Martha Beck"Whether you've seen angels floating around your bedroom or just found a ray of hope at a lonely moment, choosing to believe that something unseen is caring for you can be a life-shifting exercise."
Martha Beck"Every day brings new choices."
Martha Beck"Ten years ago, I still feared loss enough to abandon myself in order to keep things stable. I'd smile when I was sad, pretend to like people who appalled me. What I now know is that losses aren't cataclysmic if they teach the heart and soul their natural cycle of breaking and healing."
Martha Beck"Life is full of tough decisions, and nothing makes them easy. But the worst ones are really your personal koans, and tormenting ambivalence is just the sense of satori rising. Try, trust, try, and trust again, and eventually you'll feel your mind change its focus to a new level of understanding."
Martha Beck"No matter how difficult and painful it may be, nothing sounds as good to the soul as the truth."
Martha Beck"People are so afraid of authority figures and doctors are authority figures."
Martha Beck"To know what that true self is without social pressure is to know your true nature."
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